The History of Matchmaking

In many cultures, the role of the matchmaker was and is quite professionalized. The Ashkenazi Jewish Shadchan, or the Hindu astrologer, were often thought to be essential advisors and also helped in finding right spouses as they had links and a relation of good faith with the families. In cultures where arranged marriages were the rule, the astrologer often claimed that the stars sanctified matches that both parents approved of, making it quite difficult for the hesitant children to object (and also making it easy for the astrologer to collect his fee). Tarot divination has also been employed by some matchmakers.

Social dancing, especially in frontier North America, the contra dance and square dance, has also been employed in matchmaking, usually informally. However, when farming families were widely separated and kept all children on the farm working, marriage-age children could often only meet in church or in such mandated social events. Matchmakers, acting as formal chaperones serving less clear social purposes, would attend such events and advise families of any burgeoning romances before they went too far.

The influence of such people in a culture that did not arrange marriages, and in which economic relationships (e.g. “being able to support a family”, “good prospects”) played a larger role in determining if a (male) suitor was acceptable, is difficult to determine. It may be fair to say only that they were able to speed up, or slow down, relationships that were already forming. In this sense they were probably not distinguishable from relatives, rivals, or others with an interest. Clergy probably played a key role in most Western cultures, as they continue to do in modern ones, especially where they are the most trusted mediators in the society. Matchmaking was certainly one of the peripheral functions of the village priest in Medieval Catholic society, as well as a Talmudic duty of rabbis in traditional Jewish communities. Today, the shidduch is a system of matchmaking in which Jewish singles are introduced to one another in Orthodox Jewish communities.

Matchmakers believe that romantic relationships are something  a human right, and modern online dating software and sites are using technology that simply does not work. These services often rely on personality tests claiming to maximize the identification of the best match. However, more and more singles find themselves in a never ending search due to phony profiles, old outdated photographs, men who simply want sexual relationships and are not interested in committed relationships, and escorts and prostitutes posing as singles who attempt to profiteer on these sites. Once their profiles are removed they simply start new ones.

The disappointment in the never ending cycle of  failed attempts with dating sites has created a resurgence in the role of the traditional professional matchmaker. Those who  prefer human intelligence and personal relationships choose from the emergence of the modern day socially enabled matchmaker. Millions of people around the world are actually finding people who are compatible through these highly talented and motivated matchmakers. They see the major advances and advantages to human matchmakers as  matchmakers offer “a chance to communicate and connect” and “a chance to authenticate” singles in ways technology and glorified databases can not.

 

Confidential Matchmaking

What makes LongIslandMatchmaking.com different? First off  Perhaps you have had enough of the misleading – and very exposed – never ending searching and dishonest profiles associated with most of the online dating services, or you’re just tired of how much time it takes. Maybe you’re too busy to meet new people outside your general network of friends, or you just don’t want to date them. You might be picky and haven’t been meeting other quality, relationship-minded men or woman, you’ve always dreamed of meeting.

Our exclusive, private and creative approach is unique for single people who don’t have the time or inclination to to do all of the searching, screening and personal marketing that we can do more professionally for you! We have hundreds of thousands of social contacts and we screen quality, eligible matches for our clients. We develop a creative “love campaign” for our clients and handpick each candidate looking for specific compatibility factors, shared values, interests and personal preferences. All matches take place via creative, moderated introductions designed to create tangible results and encourage romantic lasting connections. Afterwards, we provide useful feedback from both parties to help refine our process and recalibrate for your next date.

We do not claim to have thousands (or hundreds of thousands of members) or the elite singles that so many matchmaking services claim to have, or pre-defined categories of people. In fact we do not publish any gallery of photographs or databases for our members to search. Our clients come to us, and we provide them with the tools necessary to expand their networks and we make them more desirable and visible in the process.

If you are accepted as a new client, your experience formally begins when you connect with your personal matchmaker to discuss your dating history and preferences. We’ll identify your top priorities as we move into the search and screen process for your first match. While you’re off doing what you do best, your matchmaker will be busy behind the scenes, identifying possible matches and personally screening potential candidates. When the choice is made, we’ll plan and schedule a safe location to introduce the two of you. Afterwards, we’ll obtain feedback from each of you to clear up any “what did he/she really think of me?” questions, and to refine your search going forward. It’s a simple process, really, that we repeat until you’re interested in pursuing a lasting relationship with one of your matches.

We create unique marketing materials that we distribute together to a world wide audience who either live on Long Island / New York City, or are willing to relocate if they truly find love with a member of the Long Island Community who has subscribed to our services. Our services beyond what we share on our website are confidential, our matchmakers are confidential, and our process in its entirety is confidential and unique.

The founder of our company has made hundreds of matches throughout his multitude of entrepreneurial business ventures and many of those same matches are still married, have many children, and even grand children. Matchmaking was never his main business however, he is simply a naturally born matchmaker who has introduced businesses to businesses most of his life, as well as made thousands of personal connections for his friends and clients organically.

It is only now that he sees so many frustrated singles on Long Island and so many lonely people that he has decided to use his unique process to help those who have given up on commercial online sites and the phony matchmakers who claim to have thousands of the most desirable and elite singles in their databases. If those matchmakers were truly authentic and professional they would have very few singles left, or they simply are misleading their clients. Our founder has even consulted to and created marketing material for other matchmaking services that have developed negative results over time and have identify crises. Our confidential process works, and we guarantee results.